01-50个让生活更美好的建议
50 Tips For A Better Life - 50个让生活更美好的建议
Happiness 幸福
You don’t have to love your job. Jobs are a way to make money. Many people live fine lives in okay jobs by using the money they make on things they care about.
你不必热爱你的工作。工作是赚钱的一种方式。许多人把赚来的钱花在他们关心的事情上，过着不错的生活。Sturgeon’s law states that 90% of everything is crap. If you dislike poetry, or fine art, or anything, it’s possible you’ve only ever seen the crap. Go looking!
鲟鱼定律指出，90%的东西都是垃圾。如果你不喜欢诗歌，或美术，或任何东西，你可能只见过垃圾。去寻找吧！People don’t realize how much they hate commuting. A nice house farther from work is not worth the fraction of your life you are giving to boredom and fatigue.
人们没有意识到他们有多讨厌通勤。一个远离工作的好房子不值得你把生命的一小部分献给无聊和疲劳。There’s some evidence that introverts and extroverts both benefit from being pushed to be more extroverted. Consider this the next time you aren’t sure if you feel like going out.
有证据表明，内向者和外向者都受益于被推到更外向。下次你不确定自己是否想出去的时候，考虑一下这一点。
Success 成功
History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
历史会记住那些先进入市场的人。让你的作品走向世界比让它完美更重要。Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plunge.
你对分手还是离职犹豫不决？你也许应该去做。一般来说，人们在冒险的时候会更快乐。Done is better than perfect.
完成总比完美好。Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
纪律胜于动力。前者是可以训练的，后者是转瞬即逝的。如果你只依靠动力，你将无法完成伟大的事情。You can improve your communication skills with practice much more effectively than you can improve your intelligence with practice. If you’re not that smart but can communicate ideas clearly, you have a great advantage over everybody who can’t communicate clearly.
你可以通过练习来提高你的沟通技巧，这比你通过练习来提高你的智力要有效得多。如果你不那么聪明，但能清楚地表达思想，你比那些不能清楚地表达思想的人有很大的优势。You do not live in a video game. There are no pop-up warnings if you’re about to do something foolish, or if you’ve been going in the wrong direction for too long. You have to create your own warnings.
你不是生活在电子游戏里。没有弹出警告，如果你要做一些愚蠢的，或者如果你已经在错误的方向走了太久。你必须创建自己的警告。If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
如果你听成功人士谈论他们的方法，请记住，所有使用相同方法但失败的人都没有制作视频。The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
最好的建议是来自一个很了解你的人。根据需要接受这样的广泛建议，但获得帮助的最好方法是向爱你的诚实朋友寻求帮助。Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
让完成事情变得尽可能容易。找到最简单的方法开始锻炼。找到最简单的方法开始写作。人们总是把事情复杂化，当他们无法成功时就会感到沮丧。尽量不要这么做。Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
培养可靠的声誉。良好的声誉是有价值的，因为它们是罕见的（容易摧毁，难以重建）。如果你的顾客知道咖啡永远是热的，你就不必煮出最好喝的咖啡。How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
你如何度过每一天，就是你如何度过你的生活。
Relationships 关系
In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
在人际关系中，寻找一个你可以享受的人，只是在附近闲逛。长期的关系大多只是用来冷却。Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
不要向同事或在网上抱怨你的伴侣。好处是微不足道的，代价是摧毁你的灵魂。After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
分手后，尽快停止所有联系。戏剧的潜力是无穷的，而一段好的友谊的潜力是微不足道的。再等一年再做朋友。When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
约会时，不强调你的怪癖会让90%的人认为你还不错。强调你的怪癖会让10%的人认为你很有趣。那些人有兴趣和你约会。瞄准他们。There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
有两个红旗，以避免几乎所有的危险人物：1.永远的痛苦; 2.愤怒。Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
那些让你感到焦虑并承诺他们有解决方案的人都是骗子。见：政治家，营销人员，新的男子气概大师，等等。避免这些。
Body 身体
The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
20-20-20规则：每20分钟的电影，看20英尺远的地方20秒。这将减少眼睛疲劳，并且很容易记住（或程序提醒）。
Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
运动是你能做的最重要的生活方式干预。即使是最低限度（每周15分钟）也会产生巨大的影响。从小事做起。Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
在过去的十年里，手机变得越来越重，而且它们对你的手腕来说实际上相当硬！使用电脑时，它是一个替代或尝试至少支撑你的手机。
Productivity 生产力
Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
学习键盘快捷键。它们很容易学习，你会更快更容易地完成任务。Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
保持你的办公桌和工作区空无一物。把每一件事都当作是你注意力的负担，因为它确实是。工作空间不是存放东西的地方。这是一个完成事情的地方。Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
在完成挑战后奖励自己，即使是不好的。
Rationality 合理性
Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has a much higher pay-off.
注意到别人的偏见很容易，注意到自己的偏见很难。然而，它有更高的回报。Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
解释问题是好的。通常在解决问题的过程中，解决方案会出现。Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
自私的人要听劝才能更加无私，无私的人要听劝才能更加自私。这适用于许多事情。每当你接受建议时，也要考虑它的反面。你可能会过滤掉你最需要的建议。
Compassion 同情
Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
想父母的时候给他们打电话，爱朋友的时候告诉他们。Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
多赞美人。许多人都很难认为自己是聪明的，或漂亮的，或善良的，除非别人告诉。你可以帮助他们。Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
不要因为尝试而惩罚别人。你教他们不要尝试和你在一起。惩罚包括抱怨他们花了这么长时间，他们做得很糟糕，或者其他人做得更好。Don’t punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
不要因为人们承认错误而惩罚他们，这会让他们更难进步。In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
总的来说，你会找借口对人不好。抵制这些。
Possessions 财产
Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
你生活中很大一部分时间都在使用的东西（床：1/3，办公椅：1/4）是值得投资的。“Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
“好刀在哪里？”如果你在寻找你的好X，你有坏X。把那些扔出去。If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
如果你的工作是在电脑上完成的，那就再买一台显示器。更少的时间在窗口之间导航意味着更多的时间思考。Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
制定明确的规则，何时扔掉旧垃圾。一旦建立了明确的规则，垃圾可能就不再是一个问题了。这是因为任何规则都上级我们的隐含规则（“把这个坏了的立体声音响保留五年，以防我学会如何修理它”）。When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
买东西的时候，时间和金钱是相互权衡的。如果你缺钱，花更多的时间去寻找交易。如果你的时间不多，停止寻找伟大的交易，只是在网上快速购买东西。
Self 自我
Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
防守并不能让你变得特别。你年纪越大，你不会做饭对人们来说就越是一个危险信号。If you’re under 90, try things.
如果你还不到90岁，那就试试看。Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
不是你的错的事情仍然是你的责任。Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
用你的痛苦来定义你自己是一种让你永远受苦的有效方法。（乱伦、创伤）。Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
保持你的身份微小。“我不是那种会做那种事的人”不是解释，而是陷阱。它阻止书呆子工作和男人跳舞。Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’.
不要把“做一件事是因为我喜欢它”和“做一件事是因为我想被看作是做这种事的人”混为一谈。Remember that you are dying.
记住你要死了。Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
个人顿悟感觉很好，但它们在几周内就会消失。一旦顿悟，制定一个计划，并开始真正改变行为。
Others 别人
In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
在选择与0-1人住在一起还是与2人或更多人住在一起时，请记住，确定责任将不再是与多个室友即时发生的（“这些是谁的菜？”）。When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.
当你问人们：“你最喜欢的书/电影/乐队是什么？“他们绊倒了，而是问他们目前最喜欢哪本书/电影/乐队。 他们几乎总是有一个并且能够谈论它。
